1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage. 1 in 4. That’s a lot of women who will experience an unimaginable loss from conception to term. 1 in 4 means that you probably know someone who has experienced a miscarriage. They may be hurting in private or they may be sharing it with the world to help just one other person.. whichever it is, my question is… WHY is there such a stigma around miscarriage when 1 in 4 women will experience one OR more?
Why do women feel they cannot talk about the pain they are experiencing? Why do women feel they need to hide their loss? Are they ashamed? Why? Because society tells them to be? There is no reason to be ashamed for something you could not control. There is no reason to hide the pain you are experiencing when there are 1 in 4 women who are experiencing that same pain right along with you. We’re like a secret club, but a club you don’t want to be a part of and a club that definitely shouldn’t be secret!
1 in 4 women suffer alone. They think people don’t care. They won’t talk about their baby because society tells them “it wasn’t a baby” or they don’t want to make others uncomfortable. But it’s 2020. Maybe it’s time for people who feel uncomfortable with the topics to bow out and let us share it with the world.
Losing a baby you’ve never met and held for such a short time is still a loss of your child. Your baby died. THAT IS WHAT HAPPENED. Why are we hiding our pain? Why aren’t we talking about the dreams we had for that baby, that little life? Why aren’t we fighting for them to live on through our love and life and words? Why do 1 in 4 women feel so lost? Because society tells them to not share. Tells them they’re alone. Tells them to “move on”… and I’m here to tell you… stand tall. Stay strong. You’re not alone! 1 in 4 women is a lot of women… you are not alone.
Your baby lived. Maybe for a very short time, but your sweet baby was alive and you will see them again… just not yet.
Please do not hesitate to reach out to me or Linked in Loss foundation for anything! You are not alone. Never alone.
*im pretty passionate about this if you can’t tell 😘